Feminist movements have made significant strides in Pakistan, mirroring the global trend of increased education and awareness. While media coverage often focuses on events like Aurat March and similar protests, there are numerous women in the country actively working towards women’s rights and social elevation through various platforms. However, the impact of these movements on the ground remains less visible, with some believing that they have not adequately addressed the core issues faced by the lower and lower-middle-class majority of Pakistan.
One point of contention surrounding feminism in Pakistan is the perception that it is selectively applied and that certain individuals within the movement prioritize women’s superiority over the pursuit of equal rights.
Recently, Uroosa Siddiqui appeared as a guest on Nida Yasor’s show, where she offered advice to young women preparing for married life. Siddiqui emphasized the importance of respect as a crucial factor in building relationships with a new family after marriage. She advised young women to extend respect to everyone in their new family.
Siddiqui further encouraged these women to clarify their feminist beliefs before entering marriage. It is important to determine personal stances on issues such as performing traditional gender roles, such as fetching the husband’s shoes or serving breakfast to the mother-in-law. She likened the experience of joining a new family to starting a new school or job, emphasizing the need for time to understand and adapt to the new environment. Siddiqui emphasized that through consistent respect, the other party will eventually come to appreciate it.
Here are some key pieces of advice Uroosa Siddiqui shared for young women:
- Clarify your feminist beliefs before marriage and establish your stance on traditional gender roles.
- Understand that entering a new family is akin to joining a new school or workplace, requiring time and patience to adapt to their set of rules and dynamics.
- Maintain a consistent attitude of respect towards all family members, as it can lead to mutual understanding and appreciation over time.
Siddiqui’s insights serve as a reminder that navigating the intersection of feminism and marriage requires thoughtful consideration and open communication.
